Mothers who lose their children to Brazil

Mothers who lose their children to Brazil

Image result for Mothers who lost their children to Brazil“Mom, they gave me a shot”, Bruna da Silva recalls one of the last sentences Marcos Vinícius, 14, told him before dying. Like her, thousands of mothers bury their children every year in Brazil because of violence as chronic as it is devastating for the youth.

Marcos was wearing the school uniform when he received, last June, a shot in the back of supposedly part of the Police in the complex of favelas de la Maré, in Rio de Janeiro.

It was another day in the routine of this young student, who went to a friend’s house to go to school together and found himself in the middle of an operation unfolded shortly after the murder of a police officer.

“They turned down the street where we lived and they ran into an armored vehicle in the middle of the street, there was no trafficker, there was no shooting, the police shot,” says her mother, Bruna da Silva, who wears a T-shirt on the street. which is stamped a photograph of his little one and the phrase: “I love you son”.

Marcos was rescued urgently in a nearby ambulatory, still conscious.

“Mom, they gave me a shot, did not the armored one see me with the school clothes?” Says Bruna, recalling what her son told her at the clinic.

He needed to be transferred to a hospital, but the ambulance that was going to pick him up was arrested at the entrance of the community by the authorities, who “said there were no students” injured, according to Bruna, who has been denied psychological treatment by the Justice after the loss of his son.

After many calls an order was given to help the young man, but it was too late. Until today there are neither detainees, nor suspects, only another unsolved case.

Brazil reached in 2016 the historic record of 62,517 homicides, of which more than half (33,590) were young people between 15 and 29 years old, according to the Atlas of Violence 2018 report, prepared by Ipea, an institute linked to the Government, and the Brazilian Forum of Public Security.

Between 2006 and 2016, the number of children and adolescents killed increased by 23.3% to reach in that decade the dramatic figure of 324,967 young people killed violently.

“Everything (the violence) is against the poor, black and peripheral youth, does not need anything else: it is poor, it is black and from the periphery, and voila, it is already sentenced to death,” says Miriam Duarte, 55 years old and one of the driving forces of the Amparar association.

Miriam lives in Sapopemba, in the humble eastern part of the São Paulo capital, and has lost two of her three children when they were only 17 years old. The three were involved in the world of crime and passed through juvenile penitentiaries.

The elder, who had problems with drugs, died in 2000 of the shooting of a retired policeman in an attempt of theft after corrupt agents, Miriam tells, demanded a sum of money to continue in freedom.

They tried to denounce but gave up: “We were afraid that something happened to other relatives”.

Three years later, the youngest, also at 17, was killed in a neighborhood brawl. The third of his children is serving a seven-year jail sentence and will leave at the end of the year.

The drama did not end there. He also raised two of his nephews, one of whom died at the age of 21, a victim of “a shot in the leg and after falling, they shot him in the heart,” says Miriam.

“The mothers of the periphery lose the right to be mothers because their children are either dead or imprisoned,” he says.

“Here we fight every day to sleep alive, to be alive every day,” he adds.

Thousands of kilometers from Sao Paulo, in Natal, capital of the state of Rio Grande do Norte (northeast), where homicides against young people have increased by 382.2% between 2006 and 2016, violence is also rampant.

Erildice da Silva still does not understand why his brother and son, who were in their twenties, were approached last June and executed by strangers with head shots on their way to a party.

“They did not owe anything, they did not drink, they did not have vice and they killed them in spite of everything (…) Until today we find ourselves without answers, it was unpunished”, comments Efe Erildice.

Brazil begins to get used to violence that is ending, every day, with thousands of young people. The deceased mothers raise their voices to try to stop this bleeding.

Miriam drew strength to be trained and become a social educator for families punished by this scourge. Bruna still keeps Marcos’s uniform shirt (“It’s what gives me strength”) and promises to say “to the whole world” that “it was the Rio Police” who murdered his son.

“Our dead have a voice and our children have mothers,” she says. EFE

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“I tell my grandchildren not to go after the money”

Image result for I tell my grandchildren not to go after the moneyI am 77 years old. I was born in Changchun (China), under Japanese control, and I live in Indiana, where I am a professor. Married, I have 2 daughters and 4 grandchildren. There are no categories among humans, we are all equal and we must have the same rights. I like Christian philosophy.

“I tell my grandchildren not to go after the money”

Lesson of humility

Son of a salesman who worked for the Manchurian Railway Company, he was a brilliant student, which allowed him to graduate at the age of 23 at the University of Tokyo and to spend most of his career at Purdue University (USA). ). He is one of the most widely quoted organic chemists, but he is a humble and charming man who laughs after every answer. He was awarded the Nobel Prize in Chemistry at age 69 for something he had discovered more than forty years ago, the so-called Negishi coupling, which has allowed the construction of complex molecules that improve many aspects of our lives. He has given a lecture at the UAB.

What is the most important?
Myself. One must be focused to live as much as possible the life he wants to live, take care of the woman he has chosen and the children he has decided to have, contribute for oneself and his career.

More than forty years ago he discovered important chemical reactions.
I was fortunate, those discoveries have allowed to create drugs against serious diseases, such as AIDS or colon cancer; fluorescent markers for DNA analysis, other products such as LEDs, liquid screens and many types of polymers.

Why did you get the Nobel Prize forty years later?
The real value of most chemical discoveries is not seen until after a few years. I realized that this was very important five years later and most of the scientists ten years later, but the Swedes took a little longer.

You did not patent your method, why?
I have patents in other areas. But I am a scientist, not an entrepreneur, and in this case money for me was secondary. By making my discovery public, the benefits have not gone to a few companies, but to the whole world, and I wanted that.

Only that?
I was satisfied with being the first, there were many people after this discovery. And winning the Nobel was much more important than winning millions and millions of dollars.

When did you start dreaming about the Nobel?
At age 25 I went to do the doctorate in the United States; I received classes from many Nobel prizes, I was impressed and I thought they were superior to the rest, but the more I listened to them and saw them, the more human they seemed to me, and I ended up thinking: “Why do they and I do not?”, heh, je, je …

When he was awarded the Nobel Prize, did he not expect it?
Year after year I was on the candidates’ lists, but they never gave it to me. After six years I said to myself: “I have already done good things because of chemistry, I do not worry about whether they give it to me or not.” And it was at that moment when they gave it to me: when I stopped thinking about him.

How did it happen?
An untimely call at five in the morning. It was a very extraordinary moment: during the previous ten years I felt that I had a cloud in my head and the day after the call I woke up with a clear mind. This is my history.

You will also have known competition and envy.
I have seen continuously many egos crashing, ha ha ha. That of humans is a complex world even within the family. But in spite of that, if we focus on positive things, we will minimize the negative aspects that are always there.

What led you to organic chemistry?
I was interested in electronic engineering, I wanted to work for a large company, like Sony, but someone told me that they paid very badly and I switched to organic chemistry, which had more future. I wanted to get married.

What have you learned?
When I was 20 I suffered from stomach pains and came to the conclusion that there are a few important things in life: health, good relationship with the family (no one wants to live alone), focus on work, think about producing, in contributing, rather than in consuming … and having passions outside of work. Mine is music.

Are you no longer worried about money?
If I take care of my profession, the money arrives, I will not pursue it. I tell my grandchildren not to go after the money.

Why did his stomach hurt?
He was the youngest and brightest student. I would get up at five in the morning and spend two hours to get to the institute. It was all very boring, but my goal was to enter the University of Tokyo, and there was competition.

You were in Yokohama when the tsunami happened.
Yes, in a meeting of alumni. We experienced the earthquake (magnitude 6) and we were lucky: the room was ready and, although some part collapsed, we left unharmed. I saw cities and towns devastated.

And the horror of Fukushima.
You can never say never, but you have to be very strict with the security levels, and, realistically, I think those levels are never fully respected.

His discoveries lead us to another type of energy.
The possibility of reducing CO2 would allow us to obtain fuels, that is the fundamental theme of my current research. I lead three research groups that are working on this because that energy is safe for the planet and for us.

You have seen the dark side of humanity: as a child the war, Fukushima … What is your reflection?
We must be prepared to face positive and negative things and to know that sometimes even positive ones lead us to suffering.

Teach your children to bring wealth this summer

Image result for piggy bank and summerThere comes a time of the holidays in which your children begin to wonder what to do because they are already bored.

And then they start doing things like going around your house, complaining about their boredom and looking for new games or activities to pass the time.

And then, both you and they begin to think of ideas to make the most of those holidays to learn something new.

In addition to walks around the city, outings to the park or meeting with other children, think of other options that do not require as much money and keep your children occupied.

Even, it will not be long for any of them to tell you that they want to do more than just play.

This may be the time to give your children small tasks during the holiday period and teach them how to value the money, as well as better understand all the economic situations that can happen in the home.

Teaching your children from a young age to value money and attract a bit of wealth both inside and outside the home can be one of the best learnings that your little ones will appreciate for the future.

Creating good habits at an early age is one of the best options for spending a different summer.

Here are some ideas for your children to learn the true value of money:

Activities for ages 5 to 11 years

Sale of lemon water

This idea is very famous and maybe you’ve seen it in some American movie. It can be something very fun for your little ones to make lemon juice and offer it to the neighbors who are passing by.

You can help them make a small sign for people passing by on your sidewalk. Not only can you sell juice, although for them it is very playful to squeeze the lemons to turn them into water. They can also offer some sweets and snacks.

So, you can guide them so they can learn what it takes to run a business. And before you know it, you’ll have a small entrepreneur at home.

Give him housework

There are tasks that take away a lot of time and that probably is not so necessary that you do them. There are even places in your home that you can not clean because your adult fingers do not allow you to perform certain tasks.

Therefore, you can pay a commission for your children to complete a task or two that you do not necessarily have to do: fold clothes, clean the table, water the plants or accommodate the spoons. Any of these tasks can be well rewarded.

Organize a garage mini sale

Motivate your children to collect toys that they no longer use and clothes that they no longer have to make a garage sale. The interesting part is that you can guide them to manage their business.

Together they can create a striking advertisement with cardboard so that other people and children can go. In this way, you will also teach your children to value what they are offering and learn to give a second use to things.

Summer activities for children from 12 to 14 years old

Baby sister

Teens and preteens generally love caring for children. And the nanny is the favorite person of every overworked parent. Your children can earn a little money by keeping one of their cousins ​​busy while the adults take care of other, stronger jobs.

It is not about your teenagers taking risks, since this task can be done with an adult.

Sale of cakes and biscuits

Children love making mud cakes. And if you want your children to learn the value of money, you can set up with them a small business of desserts and cakes that are real and simple to prepare.

You must be with them at the time of the preparation so that they begin to make their pininos in the kitchen with the correct vigilance. Your cakes can be offered at the local market, outside parks or at the entrance of your home. Perhaps that is the beginning of your children in the fascinating culinary world.

Guide in summer camp

In many summer camps the help of teenagers is very useful to carry out the entertainment activities with the rest of the camp attendants.

In addition to the financial compensation for your children, it will be a great help to meet new people and places. A few days outdoors will keep you away from boredom.

Animal caretaker

If your children love animals, this activity can be very entertaining, because in many shelters people need to walk and take care of the dogs and cats that are in the place.

And if this work is not done in a shelter, you can encourage your child to take the neighbors’ pets for a walk. This idea is made especially for your children to have an awareness of caring for animals, to instill in them respect for nature.

Cut the grass

If you have a house with a garden or shrub on the sidewalk, you can teach your children how to prune the grass and the growing weeds. The plan here is that you can then offer your gardening service to neighbors and friends.

Normally people do not have the time and patience to mow the lawn. In addition, this activity falls as a ring during the summer, because at the beginning of the rainy season, plants and flowers tend to grow faster.

Summer activities for over 15 years

Technological support

If your children of this age love everything related to technology and know how to handle all the functions of smartphones and tablets, then you have an amateur technician who can develop their full potential by offering their knowledge to help other people solve all their problems and doubts of use.

In addition, you can offer to teach how to use technology for older adults in order to learn to make the most of their mobile devices.

Employment in grocery store

This is one of the most common jobs for boys and girls of this age. It is a job that can guide them in the workplace and that will show them some of the challenges of employment: responsibilities, honesty and proactivity.

It can be a part-time job or a few hours that will help you strengthen the values ​​learned at home and acquire certain accounting skills that will serve you in the future.

All these activities have great advantages for your children according to their age. There are certain values ​​that can be learned in this way and the formation of your character is one of them.

Teaching your children to value money and attract it while taking advantage of their free time can direct them to form habits to have an economically stable adult life.

You can combine these ideas with other strategies to teach your children to value money this summer and motivate them to take small steps in financial education.